Okay, so maybe it's not your wedding but you've been asked to give a speech at your friend's wedding. You're honored but you're also nervous that you might say the wrong thing. 

Don't fret. Here are some tips and tricks for giving the best speech.

Plan ahead

Start writing your speech as soon as possible. This gives you time to fix and change things as many times as you want. Life also gets busy and this is not something you can do the night before the wedding. We suggest starting at least two months before the wedding.

Spend some time with the couple

Maybe you've known Jane since you were kids, but do you know her soon-to-be spouse? Spend some time with them as a couple to get to know who they are together. Also, set aside time to spend with them individually. This way you can get to know what they love about each other and include it in your speech as a special surprise.

Have a killer opening

You want to grab everyone's attention from the beginning. Maybe start with a joke or a quick one-liner.

Add dimension

Add emotion to your speech. The variety will keep your speech interesting. Talk about the good and the funny, but also talk about the sad and struggles the couple may have faced. This will be sure to get some tears out of your audience. 

Talk about other people

Yes, it is the couple's special day but they wouldn't be there without the people around them. Pay your dues to the parents of the couple. Maybe someone has traveled a long distance to be there, acknowledge them. Find out if there is someone special to the couple and tell a short story about them. Talking about other people will make them feel valued.

Now that you have some tips of what to say, here are a few topics to avoid altogether;

1. Past relationships.

2. Negativity about marriage and commitment.

3. Previous marriages or divorces.

It is an honour to give a speech, and they chose you because you are incredibly special to them. Take your time and relish in the moment.